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May. 7th, 2026 10:49 am(I AM FINE.)
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The moon still rises on everybody else
May. 7th, 2026 03:34 amDaily Happiness
May. 6th, 2026 07:43 pm2. Yesterday at work I heard a song playing and shazammed it and found out that Damiano David of Manneskin has a solo career, so when I got home I gave his album a listen and it's really good! The song I heard at work was Zombie Lady and I think it might be my favorite off the album but there are a lot of other great tracks, too.
3. Jasper being a brave boy at the vet on Monday.

can we handle adding things to the spectrum without kicking things *out* of the spectrum, or
May. 6th, 2026 09:38 pmSo I just read a piece of meta, which I’m going to avoid linking, because I don’t want this to feel like a callout or a slam on the writer. The writer was fine.
The quick summary is, [character] gets interpreted by fandom as autistic, and the writer explained “actually, [character] is intellectually disabled. They might also be autistic — you can be more than one thing at a time! — but they’re definitely intellectually disabled, because of [list of symptoms].”
…And, look, not to be all When I Was Your Age, but: (sits back in rocking chair, takes a long drag on pipe) when I was a young whippersnapper in school, back in the stone ages, all those things were just autism.
When the term “autism spectrum” was canonized in the DSM-5 in 2013, it folded together 4 different previous categories. One was Asperger’s syndrome, which specifically had “doesn’t test as being intellectually disabled” in the diagnostic criteria. The other 3, including the disorder previously known as Just Autism, didn’t have that exclusion.
So here’s some anecdata on how that played out in practice, back when I was in grade school. I knew students who were diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome — those were the kids who were intellectually able to keep up with standard-to-gifted classes, they just had struggles with other issues. And I knew kids who were diagnosed with Autism Classic, who were mostly in the “special ed” classes.
I can’t swear to the exact diagnosis of every special-ed kid. I was their schoolmate, not their doctor. Possibly some of them had the other two diagnoses (CDD and PDD-NOS) that ended up in the autism spectrum? There’s at least one that I know had Down’s syndrome, which is from a whole separate category.
One thing I can tell you is, in casual conversation, it was pretty standard to use “the autistic kids” to describe the whole group. Which was at least accurate-enough that no teacher or authority figure ever told us not to use it.
In elementary school — maybe third grade? — I remember one particular kid who was in the special ed classes at first, but got “mainstreamed” into my class for a year. The rest of us were specifically told that his diagnosis was autism, and that didn’t change. So, even though the term “autism spectrum” wasn’t official yet, the system did have different approaches available for different autistic people — not just on-paper but in-practice, enough to be understood by random unrelated small children.
(In retrospect, I wish I knew more details. How much support was this kid getting? Was it enough to make the “mainstreaming” work for him? But obviously the adults weren’t gossiping about those aspects to unrelated small children.)
Fast-forward a decade or so, and the DSM-5 merges all the diagnoses. The conversations about it were overwhelmingly positive — as in, I’m not sure I ever heard anyone complaining about it.
Which makes sense, for a lot of good reasons. If multiple “separate” conditions turn out to have the same underlying mechanism, then of course medical science should group them together. If people with the “less severe” condition would benefit from some of the support that the “more severe” condition gets, then of course we should make it accessible to all of them. If there’s not enough recognition that a diagnosis has a range of presentations that need different approaches, then yeah, let’s put the word “spectrum” in The Official Term. (Also: if you have a diagnosis that’s named after a Nazi doctor, it’s never a bad time to rename that.)
…And then I read this post, and I think, oh no. We, as a society, haven’t made a successful conceptual shift from “autism needs all the Classic Autism symptoms, otherwise it’s Asperger’s, which is something else” to “it’s all just autism.” The concept we’re shifting to is “autism is just the Classic Asperger’s symptoms, and if you have the other Classic Autism symptoms, that’s something else.”
Can we actually handle the idea of making a spectrum this broad? Or are we doomed to always fall back on moving it around — that is, only including one new batch of people in the category if we redefine another batch of people out of it?
Ugh.
…again, to be clear, this is all a reaction to one person’s post. I have no idea how widespread this mental framing is. Or if it’s having any negative effects for people IRL, as opposed to just flipping the direction of “[character] isn’t coded as autistic, you can tell because they [do/don’t] have these intellectual-disability symptoms” meta.
But it bothered me enough to vent about, so here we are.
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Experiments in Baking
May. 6th, 2026 07:50 pmThe issue was that I had a few biscuits left over, because I needed about 10oz but Aldi only has them in 16oz packages. So I decided to experiment and attempt to make something sweet for dessert with the leftover biscuit dough, and I think it turned out pretty well.

I cut the biscuits into quarters, brushed them with some oil, popped them in the air fryer for eight minutes, dipped them in melted butter, dropped them in a bag with some cinnamon sugar, and shook it up. Then for the dip I just mixed together some powdered sugar, heavy cream, and vanilla.
They turned out surprisingly tasty for something that I threw together in a few minutes.
There were cookies at Minicon
May. 6th, 2026 06:40 pmAbout a month ago, I went to Minicon, where I hosted a room party 2 nights running for Narrativity. This was the first ever room party I'd run, so of course it was a learning experience; among the things I learned is that a room party should *not* be a one-person undertaking!
Mainly I'm posting this, a month after the fact, to document the cookies for myself, because I am about to start making cookies for Narrativity, and data is useful.
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dentist: crown
May. 6th, 2026 06:30 pmI was pleased to see that my Lyft driver, the dentist, and the dental assistant were all masked when I first saw them. I told the driver it was nice to see other people masking, and I tipped extra because of it.
When I checked in, the receptionist told me there would be a $750 copay. I told her that I had been told that the crown was fully covered, and asked her to check. A few minutes later, she confirmed that I wouldn't have to pay anything. I do not understand dental insurance, including this dental insurance, which is an add-on to my Medicare Advantage plan; I would have paid the $750 if I had to, but I'm glad I don't.
I'd been planning to stop and visit some lilac bushes on the way home, but it was raining, which made that less appealing, so I didn't. I did stop at Lizzy's on the way home, and now have a total of five unlabeled pints of ice cream: three today, because a broken freezer meant I had to get the clerk to hand-scoop the ice cream, plus the two from Tosci's. However, I have blank sticky adhesive labels, which should make this easy.
happy birthday to meeee
May. 6th, 2026 04:43 pmWednesday had a lot of trouble logging into Official Persona Email
May. 6th, 2026 07:29 pmWhat I read
Finished Tales From Earthsea, The Other Wind and the pendant short pieces in The Book of Earthsea 'The Rule of Names', 'The Word of Unbinding', 'The Daughter of Odren', and 'Earthsea Revisioned'. I don't know quite what it is, I can see how good her work is, but the feeling is more of distant admiration than what I feel for my beloved favourites? Might even cop to preferring her criticism and essays to her fiction? (not the only author to whom this pertains.)
Started a Dick Francis, Bolt (Kit Fielding, #2) (1986)
- and then, feeling all a-wamble and fretted because of the insomnia thing, fell back into Randall Jarrell, Pictures from an Institution, old favourite.
- and then returned to the horsies and the posh owners and the psycho villains.
On the go
Martha Wells, Platform Decay (The Murderbot Diaries #8) which arrived yesterday.
Up next
No idea, apart from the recently arrived latest Literary Review
Fannish Appreciation
May. 6th, 2026 01:11 pmI've been in Bleach fandom since at least 2012 (a date easily checked because that's when I started my AO3 account.) And, you do not need to immediately comment that you've never read Bleach. I honestly wouldn't recommend it to most people. I honestly wouldn't recommend it to anime or manga fans, either! For whatever reason, Bleach just happened to be the thing for me that hit me in the right place at the right time. I felt 15 years old again, absolutely caught up in something that I felt desperate to share with other people. That feeling is probably familiar to you, my nerdy friends. So, as I talk, just imagine Your Thing anytime I say Bleach.
I've been really lucky that, over the years, I've had other Bleach fans gift me things. People have written stories for me, people have drawn amazing art for me, and
Behold!

Image: a fan bound book with the title "Academy Blues" by TSP Bindery. (https://www.tiktok.com/@tsp.bindery).
This volume actually contains two of my multi-chapter fics. First,"Forever With You Never Sounded So Stupid"and "Academy Blues." Not than most of you care, but both of these fics are part of my emotional process of recovering after the absolutely stupid, rushed ending of the official Bleach manga. I will not get into it (in part because if I start ranting, I will not stop), but suffice to say this is a fix-it that, in my own personal head, is now canon. I literally note which panel to stop reading, because my story perfectly fits canon up to that point. I also actually include a lot of the information gleaned from the official light novels that Shounen Jump commissioned to also try to actually fix the mess Kubo Tite left behind.
Anyway, the cover isn't all that exciting, honestly. But wait until you see the interior....
Interior chapter start, this one featuring Renji from Bleach....
And a second one,
Image: featuring a bone tree from a part of the Bleach universe known as Hueco Mundo, the Hollow World
Also scatterred throughout are some bits of a manga-style comicbook that aysmiro drew and shared with me, while I was writing this particular set of fics. As I was telling a friend, the pieces of this fan manga are so important to me that I've desperately been saving it on various digital back-ups for years. Now, thanks to this fan project, I have high quality printouts forever.

Image: a fan-drawn manga of a fan work of Bleach.
The crazy thing about this, of course, is that in the past year or so there's been a scammer who has targetted me twice attempting to suggest that they will draw a comic book/manga-style work from my story. (It's usually kind of obvious it's a scam because they'll pick a story where I'm like, "three people have read this. Why?") I always answer this with, "if you found my AO3 profile, you know I've given blanket permission for you to do this. Have at it!" and then they always come back with, "Yes, but for a commission," and I have to say, "Friend, I write fan fic for free. If you want to do fan art for the love of it, go for it. I am not paying you to make fan art of my fan work." Especially since this book I got? I paid nothing. The book artist wouldn't even let me pay for shipping.
Anyway, fandom is the best.
Gary x misty wedding
May. 6th, 2026 02:44 pm

Platform Decay by Martha Wells
May. 6th, 2026 12:28 pm4/5. A good outing. Murderbot does a complex rescue in corporate space, and there are juveniles, terrible.
Things I like:
- Getting a nuanced and varied look at just what life in corporate space looks like, particularly for average people. And how those people deal with the various kinds of violence and oppression that surround them. A lot of this was extremely sketchy and gestural before, but this book does a huge amount of background work on adding texture to the world.
- Wells playing out some of the consequences of the governor module hack code being out there now in ways that the fandom has been chewing on for a while.
- Murderbot getting to snark a bit on the ways that Preservation’s utopia is also sometimes really full of itself and incorrect about its own righteousness, as utopias do.
- Emotional self-awareness (oh no, terrible, how could a murderbot have a worse fate).
So yeah, pretty good, even with the tragic absence of most of the usual main cast and crew.
Calloo, callay, freezer shelves arrived today!
May. 6th, 2026 05:56 pm
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